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The recipe for success: get happy and you will get ahead in life

Feeling good 'is cause, not effect, of achievement'
Same principle applies to nations, academics claim


Kate Ravilious
Monday December 19, 2005
The Guardian

Happiness, rather than working hard, is the key to success, according to research published today. Cheerful people are more likely to try new things and challenge themselves, which reinforces positive emotion and leads to success in work, good relationships and strong health, say psychologists.

The findings suggest that happiness is not a "feel good" luxury, but is essential to people's well being. What is more, happiness can also extend across an entire nation, with people in "happy" nations being more likely to have pro-democratic attitudes and a keenness to help others.

The link between happiness and success was investigated by a team from the University of California Riverside, led by Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky.

First, they analysed questionnaires that ask people about multiple aspects of their lives. "For example, they show that happy people tend to earn higher incomes," said Prof Lyubomirsky. Having established the link, they wanted to discover the cause.

"Almost always it has been assumed that things that correlate with happiness are the causes of happiness, but it could be just the opposite - that those things tend to be caused by happiness," said Professor Ed Diener from the University of Illinois, another author on the paper.

Other studies revealed that having a sunny outlook on life appeared to precede good fortune.

"There was strong evidence that happiness leads people to be more sociable and more generous, more productive at work, to make more money, and to have stronger immune systems," said Prof Lyubomirsky.

Meanwhile, experimental studies showed that an instant injection of high-spirits could generate success. "Inducing a happy effect leads people to make more money in a computer simulation."

The research shows that while success can put a spring in someone's step, people need happiness in the first place to achieve success.

According to the study, around four out of five people in modern industrialised nations are happy at any one time.

Success was not just about earning lots of money. "We define success as obtaining the things that culture or society values, whether it be friends, close family, money and income, or longevity," said Prof Diener.

However, sorrowful people are not condemned to a life of failure.

"Our work suggests that sad people should try to increase the frequency of positive emotions in their lives by doing things that make them feel happy, even temporarily," said Prof Lyubomirsky, whose research is published in the Psychological Bulletin today.

But there is a caveat: your happiness boosters should not be dangerous, like driving fast, or counter-productive, like eating lots of chocolate.

If you can raise your spirits, the benefits can be manifold. "Happy people are more likeable and more sociable. They are also better able to cope with stress and likely to be healthier and live longer."

Nor is happiness just an individual pursuit. Happy nations, full of happy people, are more likely to be successful than unhappy nations. "People in happy nations trust others more and want to cooperate with their neighbours," said Prof Diener.

Governments could keep a smile on their citizens' faces by ensuring safety and stability.

"Although nations cannot live people's lives and force them to be happy, they can create conditions - for example, parks, reasonable weekly work hours, a health infrastructure, and good transportation - that influence people's happiness," he added.

For governments and individuals alike, it seems, happiness is more than just a hedonistic pleasure.

RUN IN THE RAIN

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of  Target.

We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.

The little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in "Mom, let's run through the rain," she said.

"What?" Mom asked.

"Let's run through the rain!" She repeated.

"No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit," Mom replied.

This young child waited about another minute and repeated: "Mom, let's run through the rain,"

"We'll get soaked if we do," Mom said.

"No, we won't, Mom. That's not what you said this morning," the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom's arm.

 This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?

"Don't you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, 'If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!"

The entire crowd stopped dead silent. You couldn't hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes.

Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say. Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.

"Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If GOD let's us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing," Mom said.

Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars.

And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.

Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories...So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.

I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.

They say, it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. 

Five Great Lessons

1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:

"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall,

dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain

One night, at11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached..

 It read:  "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.
Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
         Sincerely,
         Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those  who serve.
      In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

 "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.  "Fifty cents," replied the waitress.
 The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.
By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.

 "Thirty-five cents," she brusquely replied
 The little boy again counted his coins.
 "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.
The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the    ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies..
You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand!

 Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve  our condition.

 5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it, if it will
save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did,
seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.
He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?"
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

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"Work like you don't need the money,
love like you've never been hurt,
and dance like you do when nobody's watching."   :-)

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Never Run Faster Than Your Angel Can Fly



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The Eskimo Story    (for Tennis players)

When the Alaskan Pipeline was being built, there were many Texans who went to Alaska and found work on the pipeline. The Texans could only work a few hours a day in the frigid weather. Yet the Eskimos, the native Alaskans could work indefinitely in the cold. They decided to do a study to find out why the Eskimos could withstand the weather. After much study they found that there were no physiological differences between the Eskimos and the Texans. There was nothing in skin thickness, blood, or any other thing physically that would explain the differences in the ability to withstand the temperatures. The solution came when they did a psychological study. The difference was that the Eskimo said, "he knew it was cold but there was a job to be done." In other words, his focus was on the job rather than on the weather. The Texas focused on the weather and this kept him from focusing on the job.

You are responsible for performing. Your focus is to be on the job. You are to be result-oriented. When you practice in August, it will be hot. When you play outdoors in March or October, it may be cold or windy. You are responsible to perform. Your team is counting on you. You need to focus on performance, not the weather.
 

WALKING THE WALK

 

I’d rather see a sermon, than hear one any day

I’d rather once you walk with me, than merely show the way.

The eye’s a better pupil, and more willing than the ear

Fine counsel is confusing, but the examples always clear

I soon can know how to do it, if you let me see it done

I can see your hands in action, but your tongue too fast may run.

And the lectures you deliver may be very fine and true

But I’d rather get my lesson, by observing what you do

For a person must understand you, and the high advice you give

But there is no misunderstanding, how you act and how you live.

 

HOW TO TELL A WINNER FROM A LOSER.

 

A winner says, ‘Let’s find out’, a loser says, ‘Nobody knows

When a winner makes a mistake, he says ‘I was wrong’

When a loser makes a mistake, he says ‘It wasn’t my fault’

A winner goes through a problem,

A loser goes around it, and never past it

A winner says ‘I’m good, but not as good as I ought to be’

A loser says ’I’m not as bad as a lot of other people are’

A winner tries to learn from those who are superior to him

A loser tries to tear down those who are superior to him

A winner says, ‘There ought to be a better way to do it’

A loser says, ‘That’s the way it’s always been done here’.
 

PERSISTENCE.

 

Don’t  quit

 

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will

When the road you’re trudging, seems all uphill

 

When the funds are low and the debts are high

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh

 

When care is pressing you down a bit

Rest if you must but don’t you quit

 

Life is odd with its twist and turns

As everyone of us sometimes learns

And many a failure turns about

When we might have not stuck it out

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow

You may succeed with another blow

 

Success is failure turned inside out

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt

And you never can tell how close you are

It may be near when it seems so far

So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit…

It’s when things seem worst that you must not QUIT!
 
Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”
- Sir Winston Churchill
 

F E A R .

 

‘If you want to walk on water, you’ve got to get out of the boat’

                                                                   (John Ortberg)

 

WHAT IS FEAR ?

 

Patterns of behaviour that never get confronted and changed

Abilities and gifts that never get cultivated and deployed

Until weeks become months and months turn into years

And one day you’re looking back on a life of deep, intimate,

Gut-wrenchingly honest conversations you never had.

 

Great bold prayers you never prayed

Exhilarating risks you never took,

Sacrificial gifts you never offered,

Lives you never touched.

 

And you’re sitting in a recliner with a shrivelled soul

And forgotten dreams, and you realise there was a world of desperate need,

And a great God calling you to be part of something bigger than yourself

 

You see the person you could have become but did not

You never followed your calling.

 

What would you do … if you knew ahead of time

That you would accomplish it or receive it?

 

I have to ask this of my people.

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